3.5.2 Social Visits and Overnight Stays With Friends

Contents

1. Introduction
2. Visits / Stays Away Which the Staff / Carer can Agree
3. Parental Consent

1.Introduction

The guiding principle is that looked after children should as far as possible be given the same permission to take part in normal and acceptable age appropriate activities, such as staying with friends, as would reasonably be granted by parents of their peers.  Judgment should depend on the assessed risks to and needs of the child. 

When the child's placement is made, information regarding significant relationships and friendships should be obtained when completing the Placement Information Record.

The Placement Information Record should include the parameters within which visits or stays of up to 4 days away from the home with friends may be agreed by the carer without prior consultation with the social worker, and whether agreement to such visits requires the carer to obtain parental consent.

Although checks should not normally be required as a precondition of a child staying overnight with friends, in circumstances where it is considered necessary as a result of specific risks identified in the risk assessment at the time of the placement, or where the child is to stay with adults regularly or frequently or for a prolonged period, checks on members of the relevant household should be made through the Criminal Records Bureau (CRB), as well as Children's Services and Probation records for the relevant area.

Where there are exceptional reasons to require carers to seek the permission of the social worker, a manager or a parent, or place specific restrictions on permitting a child to stay overnight with friends, this should be because of reasons necessary to safeguard the child's welfare.  The child's wishes should be taken into account in reaching any such decision.  Any such restriction, together with the reasons, should be clearly recorded in the Placement Information Record, and explained to the child.  Restrictions should be reviewed regularly to ensure they remain relevant.

2. Visits / Stays Away Which the Residential Staff / Foster Carer can Agree 

The following procedure applies to visits or overnight stays away from the home, of up to four days (three overnights), which the staff/carer can agree.

The circumstances in which these situations may arise include the following:

1. Sleepovers with friends
2. Invitations to go out for the day with a friend's family where the family are unlikely to be back until late
3. Invitations to join a friend's family who are going away for a weekend
4. The foster carer's own children going to a relative or friend for up to 4 days and the child wishing to go as well
5. A relative or friend of the foster family occasionally acting as babysitter where the usual arrangements have broken down or are not available 
6. School or other trips of up to 4 days away (see also Holidays and School/Organisational Trips within the UK Procedure).
7. A child's authorised day visit with a friend or family being extended if the child cannot return due to bad weather or a car breaking down where there are no known restrictions to an overnight stay taking place

In order to facilitate such arrangements, it is important that the social worker and, preferably the child's parents, reach agreement at the time of the child's placement as to the circumstances in which residential staff/foster carers can authorise short stays; and that this is set out in the Placement Information Record. 

As indicated in Section 1, Introduction, in exceptional circumstances, the Placement Information Record may state that the social worker and/or parent must always be consulted.

The more usual arrangement will be that the staff/carer can arrange overnight and short stays away of up to 4 days without consulting the social worker or parent on each individual occasion.

Staff/carers considering a request from a child to stay overnight with a friend should base their decision on the following factors:

• Are there any relevant restrictions in the child's Placement Information Record?
• Are there any factors in the child's past experiences or behaviour to preclude overnight stays?
• Are there any grounds for concern that the child may be at significant risk in the household concerned or from the activities proposed?
• Is the child staying with another child or children, rather than staying solely with an adult?
• The age and level of understanding of the child - as a guideline, children under 5 will usually be considered too young.
• What is the purpose and length of the overnight stay?
• Whose idea was the overnight stay?
• How well is the friend or family known to the child?

Where the staff/carer proposes to agree to the child's stays away, before allowing them to go ahead, certain enquiries must be made by the staff/carer; for example the name of the adult who will be responsible for the child, the means of contacting the adult and the child during the visit/stay and the arrangements for the child's return.  There should be clarity about the sleeping arrangements, whether the child will be sharing a bedroom and, if so, what the arrangements are. 

Prior to the child's stay away, the staff/carer should arrange to meet the adult who will have responsibility for the child unless he or she is already known in which case the prior arrangements can be made over the telephone.

The arrangements for supervising or caring for the child must not compromise the safety of the child or of any one else; and the following considerations should apply:

1. Have the arrangements been confirmed with the parent of the friend or the adult who will have responsibility during the visit?
2. What are the arrangements for the child returning to the home?
3. Is there a contact number for the household in which the child will stay?
4. Is the child aware of what to do if he or she wants to return to the home earlier than planned?
5. Does the child have a contact number for the carers where they can be reached at any time?
6. Does the child have access to a mobile phone?

In all cases, discussions should be held with the child, dependent on his or her age, as to what, if any, information should be shared with other adults to enable them to look after the child appropriately.

This might include:

• Any specific health care needs of the child
• Any established routines for the child
• Any behaviour management problems which, if the adult is unaware of, could lead to difficulties during the visit, for example the child may be over familiar with adults or over assertive with younger children

Any decision to share information should be on a 'need to know' basis and recorded.

If the child refuses to allow appropriate information to be shared, then he or she needs to be made aware that this could affect the decision to allow the child to stay away from home.

If satisfied that it is appropriate to allow the child's stay away, a decision to allow it to go ahead may be made.  If not, it may not be allowed. 

The decision and the arrangements agreed should be recorded in full by staff/carers in the child's Daily Record.

Even if it has been agreed that the social worker does not have to be consulted in making these arrangements, s/he must still be informed as soon as practicable afterwards and the social worker should inform the parents as appropriate.

3.  Parental Consent

Wherever possible, parents' views and consent to contact with relatives and friends including any overnight stays away from the home should be obtained at the time of the placement. 

These views should be recorded including an indication of whether the parent wishes to be notified or their consent obtained every time an overnight stay takes place and if so, whether such consultation and prior consent is required before the contact can go ahead. 

It should also be clearly recorded if parents do not consent to any continuing relationships or short stays away from the home, and the reasons for their lack of consent should be obtained.

If it is considered that contact is appropriate despite the parents' views, legal advice may be required and any decision to allow such contact to go ahead notwithstanding the parents' views must be clearly recorded, together with the reasons, and explained to the parents.

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